刘家铭 – Dominic Low Kay Meng
A name is what your parents gave you is also what parents hope and best wishes for you. For this reason, my son’s name is 刘家铭, Dominic Low, is my expectation of him.
家 – I hope that he can put his family first in everything that he does, this way, he can’t go wrong too far as long as he have his family in mind.
铭 – As to this, since it is last character of the name, it is expected that he doesn’t go after rich and power and lost his way in the end.
It is also for us, parents to remember how hard we went though to have this baby to care and nurture him to be a better human being.
However, this was all a plan that can never be accomplished. We lost him on 4th November 2011, 10.07pm. He was only 23 weeks 2 days old. I delivered him and holding him, I saw him grasping for air. Being too small and premature, he was unable to survive on his own… He was only 535grams when delivered. However, he looked cute with his 4 small limbs. We were all crying but how I wish the one that is crying is him and not us. He should be lying in our pretty cot that we prepared for him but not the…
Why does this happen to us? What have I done wrongly?
My hubby said he will always be our first son. By the way, the name has another meaning to it which is to – 铭记于心
Although no words can really help to ease the loss you bear, just know that you are very close in every thought and prayer.
My heartfelt condolences to u & hubby.
Though he is not physically with you, He does exist and is still here with you and he forever lives in your heart and mind.
He will want to see his parent forever be happy and healthy, so be strong my dear Felicia.
No word can express one’s grief, and dont have to forget what you dont want to forget, but made it a memory that stays forever.
Dominic Low is so called my “god son” too because I told you before as long as you have a child be it boy or girl, I will love her or him as much as I would as my god son or god daughter.
In fact I was planning to help you in future if you have problem in babysitting on and off if you need help as I went through the problem of no one helping me to care for my son at times.
Take care and see you soon
I’m sorry to hear about the lost of Kay Meng. Is hard on you, your hubby & the whole family. You and your hubby have to support each other. Try to rest more & recuperate your body. You both are still young to have another baby again. During this difficult time try to talk/chat with your hubby, sister or friends. Go out to relax. If possible go for a short honeymoon trip with your hubby. Don’t keep it to yourself, or else you will get post portum depression with the sudden hormone lost & the baby.
You got to be strong & think positive. Imagine if Kay Meng survived from the 23 wks outside world, he will have lots of health problems, suffer alot by going in & out of hospital. May he rest in peace. He will not suffer & be happy up there. Kay Meng may not be fated to grow up in your family, but he is always in your heart forever watching over & protect you and your family. He is always growing in your heart. So that you are prepared for the next kid. He is always your boy & big brother for your future kids. Be the “body gurad, guardian angel” for you & family.
You both have to be strong & hold on to each other. Feel free to send email to me. Remember there is alway friends & relatives that is supporting you.
All the best